It's Okay to Fight on Valentine's Day
“People call it Valentine’s Day. I call it Tuesday.”
"People call it Valentine's Day. I call it Tuesday." -- Lil Wayne
Don't get me wrong: I love "love." But Valentine's Day doesn't have to be a huge thing, whether you're in a partnership or not. This year, in particular, there should be no pressure to feel romantic, buy expensive gifts, wear a nipple-less red bra, make excuses for being contentedly single or eat undercooked brunch served by your kids. (I know a mom who got salmonella because her husband let their kids serve her runny eggs. Did she blame him? Yes. Did I support her? Yes.)
According to a 2018 survey, almost 85% of couples believe that having sex is an important part of the holiday; more than 60% say they would be disappointed if they didn't get lusty. I'll be molesting a box of See's Candies Nuts & Chews that day. Beyond that, who knows? (My husband and I have agreed to just let the day unfold with no expectations of kinky sex acts or cashmere.) Last year, a study revealed that 43% of singles consider Valentine's Day to be the most pressure-filled holiday. This Sunday, let's all just relax and love ourselves.